I already posted this on my facebook page, but I really loved this article showing what happens to women when they lift weights. As you know, I own a CrossFit gym, so I’m absolutely an advocate of lifting heavy shit, but this article stands out because it’s probably the most diversity I’ve seen in any sort of mainstream fitness article. They’re showcasing women of all body types, able-ness, and race. Kudos to Buzzfeed, I will forever reblog articles like this.
Fuck yes for orgasm equality! Or at least a better discussion on what pleases each partner.
Maybe a tit-for-tat climax competition isn’t the healthiest way to think about sexual equality. McKenzie is right: sex and pleasure are more nuanced than that. But until we recognize that women’s pleasure during sex is just as important as men’s – and that there’s nothing wrong with having sex just because it feels good – that nuance will be difficult to … achieve.
I love pretty much everything Kim Anami writes, and this article is no exception. It was also an idea that was very present for me this week, so I appreciate the reminder.
She ends the relationship with the words: “I love you, but I love me more.”
That, there, was the wisest line in the whole show for me.
As much as me meld together, and the melding, the acceptance of all of your partner’s (strengths and) flaws is beautiful, if something makes you less of who you are, you have to reject it.
If you become smaller to stay together;
If you swallow things you know to be true;
If you don’t feel honoured any longer;
You either set boundaries that ensure you remain respected and cherished and your partner adheres to them.
Or you leave.
But not easy.
I’m realizing I’m not active enough on social media, so I’m trying to tweet and retweet more on twitter, post more on instagram, and share more on facebook (rather than simply liking or favoriting statuses and posts). Am I following you? Have I liked all your pages? Comment below and let me know how to follow you.
As you know (maybe you know? maybe I’ve never mentioned it here), I want to get into birding. I remember camping years ago and we were all excited to see bears and moose, but my leaders pointed out that birds are on all seven continents, and in all ecosystems, so it’s always exciting if you’re birding. But I’m still very casual about it, so I was psyched about this new app to help you ID birds based on pictures you take. I’ll let you know how it works as I use it more, and hopefully I’ll be able to hold more birds in my memory.
Looks like my mind is firmly in the realm of “Everything is About Sex” this week, which is fitting after a breakup, I guess. I loved this article. [although, there’s that one pesky mention of “respecting” someone too much to have casual sex. I find that sort of language problematic. I think all sexual encounters, casual or otherwise, have space for respect and affirmative consent. Let’s pay attention to those sorts of statements.]
When I say “How are you?” what I mean is “How is your heart today?“
I am not asking how many items are on your to-do list, nor asking how many items are in your inbox. I want to know how your heart is doing, at this very moment. Tell me. Tell me your heart is joyous, tell me your heart is aching, tell me your heart is sad, tell me your heart craves a human touch. Examine your own heart, explore your soul, and then tell me something about your heart and your soul.