I have SO MUCH LOVE for this TED talk calling for a new metaphor for sex.
For some reason, says educator Al Vernacchio, the metaphors for talking about sex in the US all come from baseball — scoring, getting to first base, etc. The problem is, this frames sex as a competition, with a winner and a loser. Instead, he suggests a new metaphor, one that’s more about shared pleasure, discussion and agreement, fulfillment and enjoyment. Let’s talk about … pizza.
Last week I really needed this post of Leonie’s top blogging tips. So encouraging.
Speaking of sex, I loved these excerpts from Alain de Botton on How to think more about sex.
Our culture encourages us to acknowledge very little of who we normally are in the act of sex. It seems as if it might be a purely physical process, without any psychological importance. But … what happens in love-making is closely bound up with some of our most central ambitions. The act of sex plays out through the rubbing together of organs, but our excitement is no boorish physiological reaction; rather, it is an ecstasy we feel at encountering someone who may be able to put to rest certain of our greatest fears, and with whom we may hope to build a shared life based upon common values.
Have you guys read about Sweden introducing a gender-neutral pronoun? I’m intrigued, although part of me really resists the idea that we need to ignore differences in order to treat everyone equally.
Thanks, Havi, for working through the difficulty that is not getting what you want and getting instead what you’re supposed to get.
I’ve been binge-watching Gilmore Girls since Netflix put it on instantwatch, and it makes me want to accept the Rory Gilmore Reading Challenge.
Yes, thank you, I would like everything in this Etsy shop.