Internet Inspiration – July 26, 2013
July 26, 2013
Heliocentricity and Interpersonal Relationships
July 31, 2013

The Ache of Monogamy

I love this new song by The Civil Wars. And for the LIFE of me I can’t figure out how to embed it. So just go to youtube and watch it.

What I love even MORE than the song is this explanation of the song by Joy Williams:


‘Same Old Same Old,’ to me, represents the ache of monogamy. This isn’t an ‘I’m leaving you’ song. It’s a vulnerable confession of ‘I don’t want to leave. I want to work on this – with you.’ Having said that, someone once told me a story about long term relationships. To think of them as a continent to explore. I could spend a lifetime backpacking through Africa, and I would still never know all there is to know about that continent. To stay the course, to stay intentional, to stay curious and connected – that’s the heart of it. But it’s so easy to lose track of the trail, to get tired, to want to give up, or to want a new adventure. It can be so easy to lose sight of the goodness and mystery within the person sitting right in front of you. That continent idea inspires me, and makes the ache (when it comes) hurt a little less. To know that it happens to all of us. What I’m realizing now is that sometimes the ‘same old same old’ can actually be rich, worthwhile and a great adventure.

— Joy Williams


So beautiful, so profound, and so relatable. We are all in at least one long term relationship: the one with ourselves. And it is very difficult at times to “stay intentional, to stay curious and connected.” Thank you, Joy (and John Paul), for this profound inspiration.

[via vh1]