Internet Inspiration – April 17, 2015

4.17.2015

Why is English spelling so weird?

English doesn’t borrow from other languages. English follows other languages down dark alleys, knocks them over, and goes through their pockets for loose grammar.

A photographer attached fireworks to drones and took some beautiful pictures.

Some epic responses from celebrities about fat shaming. My most recent favorite is Kelly Clarkson’s:

I wish I had a better metabolism. But someone else probably wishes they could walk into a room and make friends with everyone the way I can. You always want what someone else has.

All bodies are good bodies, and that includes yoga bodies. We are all welcome.

I can’t stop listening to this song this week. It’s a song I dance to weekly at Thursday Night Salsa, but for some reason this week I want it on all. the. time.

Randomly, this Key & Peele skit about Game of Thrones is hilarious and contains zero current season spoilers.

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Internet Inspiration and Updates – April 10, 2015

4.10.2015

My poor, neglected blog. I remember it used to drive me crazy when I’d look at blogs and every entry would begin with “I’m sorry I’ve been absent so long, let me tell you all the reasons why I haven’t been writing…” and now I really understand where those bloggers were coming from.

Mostly what happened with me is I’d say, “Kathryn. You need to write a blog post. Sit down and do it.” And I’d reply, “You are not the boss of me!” and go do anything besides writing. Sometimes I just need to be a walking f*ck you, even to myself.

I’ve been working on my first online course, which sends me scurrying for anonymity. It’s 8 weeks long, beginning in June, and the real point of the course is for you to get to know yourself, to engage with your emotions (and emotional triggers), and to be on your own side.

It starts with eating patterns: stress, meal timing, eating speed, and also goes into the toxic nutritional beliefs you might have ingested from years of living on planet Earth. But the real fun happens when we have a foundation of slow, mindful eating and can start to turn our attention deeper, into the stuff you’re avoiding when you focus on food and rules and control. Thing like pleasure, desire, and what you’d do with all the energy you’re currently spending worrying about diet, exercise, control, and willpower.

So I’m excited for that, and will absolutely be sending out more and more information over the next few months. But keep it in mind if you’re looking for support and acceptance on your body love path.

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17 of the most brilliant excerpts from poetry.

This post went viral, at least in my circles, a few weeks ago, and it was worthy of its viral status. What it means to hold space for people.

To truly support people in their own growth, transformation, grief, etc., we can’t do it by taking their power away (ie. trying to fix their problems), shaming them (ie. implying that they should know more than they do), or overwhelming them (ie. giving them more information than they’re ready for). We have to be prepared to step to the side so that they can make their own choices, offer them unconditional love and support, give gentle guidance when it’s needed, and make them feel safe even when they make mistakes.

Coconut black rice breakfast pudding. And also let’s go to Thailand.

Everything Is Awful And I’m Not Ok. An excellent article with some practical question and answers to go through if you’re having one of those ways, which we all do at some point.

This is kind of neat: your yoga horoscope. Definitely true for me (a Cancer), at least.

Awesome article on how to live out of a suitcase glamorously. The clothing stuff is cool, but I’m most excited about the cash passport.

And now you can power your own electronic devices through movement!

There’s a Malala Asteroid!

And, there’s a dance opera being filmed inside a particle accelerator.

Nothing is the New Skinny. Amen.

At the end of the day, this is basically about giving women the message that we should all try to be “This!” which is the new “That!” which will make us worthy/good/socially acceptable/fuckable or whatever.  It’s like climbing out of one hole, falling into another hole, and then celebrating that we’re in a different hole.

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Belated Internet Inspiration – March 1, 2015

3.1.2015

I honestly don’t think I’ve ever wondered why mirrors flip things horizontally but not vertically, but if you have, here’s your answer.

8 photographs that showcase beautiful post-baby bodies.

The only story we see is the bounce-back; the mother who went to the gym every day and lost all the weight. But then there’s the rest of us. It’s not that one is bad and one is good. There’s nothing wrong with being able to bounce back; it’s powerful and beautiful. But my experience when I gave birth was very different. I want those women to know they haven’t failed.

Cool infographic on the various ways we can achieve immortality. Which do you prefer?

Beautiful thoughts on the Jewish tradition of Shmita, or letting the land lie fallow every seven years.

To let land lie fallow is to let it rest and replenish, to be left unsown for a period of time in order to restore its fertility.

During this time, all agricultural activity is forbidden by halakha (Jewish law). You can do things like weeding or trimming — clearing out — but only as a necessary preventative measure only, not to improve the growth of trees or other plants.

24 quotes about writing that make you want to write more.

I love everything about this story. A young Seattle girl feeds the crows in her neighborhood and receives presents back.

The crows would clear the feeder of peanuts, and leave shiny trinkets on the empty tray; an earring, a hinge, a polished rock. There wasn’t a pattern. Gifts showed up sporadically – anything shiny and small enough to fit in a crow’s mouth.

One time it was a tiny piece of metal with the word “best” printed on it. “I don’t know if they still have the part that says ‘friend’,” Gabi laughs, amused by the thought of a crow wearing a matching necklace.

It’s CrossFit Open season! Wahooo!!! I’m thinking back to last year and remembering how poignant disappointment can be.

Once we’re ready, we want change and improvement to happen all at once, and it doesn’t. We have a limited capacity for growth.

But when it come to bodies, to abilities, to life, it’s all a series of relationships, as far as I’m concerned.

It’s a relationship, not a technique. And it’s going to be different every damn day. This doesn’t diminish the value of effort and hard work, but this idea of relationship creates space for a little mystery. It makes space for the idea that Earth takes the easy, organic route, and that we can do the same.

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Role-Lock and Role Models

Role-Lock and Role Models

Did you guys see the Saturday Night Live 40th anniversary show? I’m not super into SNL, but I was visiting my brother and they were watching it, and it was pretty funny. I’m linking to a clip of Miley Cyrus performing “50 Ways to Leave Your Lover,” a Paul Simon song with which I was unfamiliar.

I made a comment about how much I love Miley Cyrus. (I do, and I always have. Hannah Montana The Movie is a treasure.) A friend who was there responded by asking me if I’d had a little girl who looked up to Hannah Montana if I wouldn’t have been disappointed in Miley Cyrus when she went so far in the other direction. Didn’t I think she owed it to her fans to be a good role model?

It was hard for me in the moment to articulate my thoughts, but all I could think of was something author Neil Strauss tweeted a few months ago:

Role-Lock

Haven’t we all been there?

I have a family friend who used to not want to come home during holidays. Her mother was upset by that and didn’t know why, and my mother pointed out that this friend is a grown woman, with a BA and a Masters Degree from elite universities, a successful job, and a healthy romantic relationship, and when she comes home none of that matters; she is the youngest child and gets treated like she’s 12.

That’s why a lot of people get stressed when holidays come around: it’s very easy to fall back into old relationship pattern where all of you fades away and you’re now a supporting role in some family dynamic. You’re someone’s daughter, sister, friend. And those relationships carry all sorts of pressures, expectations, and potential for disappointment.

A prophet is honored everywhere except in his own hometown and among his relatives and his own family. – Jesus, Mark 6:4

I have that issue with most of my relationships. The reason I’m most afraid of romantic relationships is that I’m afraid I’ll cease to be myself and I’ll fade away into being someone’s girlfriend.

We all know what to expect from these roles. That’s why they’re so easy to fall into. You know what you have to do to be the perfect ____. You’ve been learning it your whole life.

But if you sweep yourself under a rug in order to be the Stepford wife, daughter, son, girlfriend, friend, husband, boss, employee, parent, you’ll never be able to sustain it. Eventually all these repressed parts of you will want expression. And then you reach the terrifying precipice where you realize that you have all the love and approval you could want, except that all the love and approval is directed at your persona and not at you.

Being not loved by you for who I am is better than being loved by you for who I would pretend to be.   – Nicole Daedone

So when I think of Miley Cyrus and all those parents who think she’s a bad role model, I think they’ve missed a better lesson to teach their children. I think it’s harmful to label someone good or bad just so you can be comfortable. You’ll be amazed at how kids pick up on this lesson.

A better, more loving lesson to learn and teach is that people change and people vary.

Maybe Miley Cyrus as Hannah Montana was the right role model for your kid, and now Miley Cyrus and the Bangerz tour is not right for your kid at this time.

It doesn’t make Miley Cyrus bad; it doesn’t make you good. There are no karmic brownie points for self-expression.

Either way, it’s worth exploring where you’re putting expectations on other people, be they personal relationships or with public figures.

It’s worth exploring where you’re pushing yourself aside because you feel the pressure from people in your life.

How would you change if everyone in your life would respond to your choices with unwavering respect for you and your sovereignty?

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Internet Inspiration – February 13, 2014

2.13.2015

Happy Galentine’s Day!!

How to draw anything. This is adorable. And easy!

Mount Holyoke has cancelled its annual performance of The Vagina Monologues this year because they believe it presents a narrow view of womanhood. I’ll be honest: I never liked the Vagina Monologues and the best thing my university ever did was add The Vagina Dialogues to their performance so that our students could write their own acts about sexuality, identity, orientation, relationships. The Vagina Dialogues remain some of the most compelling performances I’ve ever seen.

I know I have a lot of books to read, but it doesn’t stop me from wanting the top poetry books of 2014.

And here is a list of the Best Books of 2014. I really want to read Station Eleven. Let me swiftly read all the other books on my list!

Also, here are some great resolutions ideas if you’re still looking for your 2015 focus.

My current favorite eye makeup routine. Actually, though, I’m seeing a pattern here. This look is the one I might want to try this weekend for a bachelorette party (also, if you’re only following one makeup channel on youtube, make it Lisa Eldridge) , and I’m also kind of intrigued by these two where the color is between the eyes.

This is the first time I’ve heard of the Adipositivity Project, where photographer Substantia Jones takes pictures of fat people and their partners. Love. [This post does contain nudity and is probably NSFW.]

If you’re wanting some plants for your home, here are some magical plant meanings. You can buy me fuschia roses for a gift if you want. I love roses, and I wouldn’t mind something that reinforces, “A lust for life, radical self love, deep love and acceptance of your physical body.” Warning, if you have any sort of black thumb, the hilariously nicknamed “Mother In Law Plant” is the longest living plant I have.

This is so random, but I do want the life I’d have if Stanley Tucci were my boyfriend. Who the hell writes this stuff?

If Stanley Tucci were your boyfriend, you would own a good cheese knife. Nothing pretentious. You wouldn’t need a whole set. Just one. But it would be perfect, and you would never have trouble sliding Camembert pieces off of it. You would be the kind of person who invests in small, good, useful things. You would treat yourself with compassion, and you would never eat Cheetos in the shower.

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